tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2281443754502891373.post7149934373908500877..comments2023-09-16T09:09:18.691-04:00Comments on Kittywampus - now at kittywampus.wordpress.com: Foolishness about Smart People and DatingSungoldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02153155221248240952noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2281443754502891373.post-31274631598859293882009-03-06T22:21:00.000-05:002009-03-06T22:21:00.000-05:00Hi Daisy! I think the old advice "show, don't tell...Hi Daisy! I think the old advice "show, don't tell," is probably awfully sound when it comes to intelligence. <BR/><BR/>And yeah - I don't feel comfortable name-dropping because I see how loose the connection is to merit. I managed not to parlay a fancy-pants diploma into a well-paid job (this year is the first time I've had a full-time job that paid health insurance since 1988! not a typo). I had a really rewarding experience in college - lots of fun, great friends, and somehow I learned quite a bit, too - but there's so much luck that goes into the education lottery. All of it - supportive parents who've been to college themselves, decent schools, books at home, caring teachers, a safe neighborhood and a full belly, even one's own native intelligence - is the luck of the draw, *not* some sign of moral superiority. <BR/><BR/>Personally? I kind of think Alex Benzer was hoping to attract a date, and mentioning Hahvahd was part of the bait. I realize he's trying to be cute when he writes: "Now you could be absolutely stunning (in which case you're both smart AND pretty and everyone hates you except for me -- call me, like, immediately)" - but who says he can't be serious, and desperate, too? Then again, maybe he's just hawking his books.Sungoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02153155221248240952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2281443754502891373.post-11840005633886533102009-03-06T00:16:00.000-05:002009-03-06T00:16:00.000-05:00What I've noticed: Smart people love to write stu...What I've noticed: Smart people love to write stuff about being smart. Then they get to remind everyone how smart they are, and drop the names of their hoity-toity schools. <BR/><BR/>(note: don't mean you)<BR/><BR/>I often think that's the <I>real reason</I> for these articles.Daisy Deadheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17993200276152025235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2281443754502891373.post-52064656533055980332009-03-05T11:57:00.000-05:002009-03-05T11:57:00.000-05:00Hi again, Reg. The line you mention is important. ...Hi again, Reg. The line you mention is important. Women, especially, have historically hid their intelligence - but men do it sometimes, too. My hope is that with the election of Obama, my country is moving into a less anti-intellectual era. We shall see!<BR/><BR/>I meant it's dicey because we *all* are subject to brain farts. And it's probably a good thing, if it keeps us from becoming too self-impressed. :-)<BR/><BR/>As for my husband? Yeah, he was definitely worth the wait.Sungoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02153155221248240952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2281443754502891373.post-32929732589343441362009-03-05T10:32:00.000-05:002009-03-05T10:32:00.000-05:00And I forgot to say that what you said about your ...And I forgot to say that what you said about your husband was one of the most heart-warming things I've heard recently. If someone I valued felt able to appraise me in such terms after a long time together, I would feel it all counted for something.<BR/><BR/>The value of waiting, QED.<BR/><BR/><BR/>RegReghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12753176107399356438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2281443754502891373.post-72689168097458011352009-03-05T10:17:00.000-05:002009-03-05T10:17:00.000-05:00It's not dicey when it's self-evidently true. I'm...It's not dicey when it's self-evidently true. I'm very preoccupied by the line between a proper appreciation of one's own talents, and egomania. Having done pop music and jazz for a living since 1971, I know whereof I speak.<BR/><BR/>This will make a post for me on Tangentville rather than irrelevantly burbling further about it here.<BR/><BR/>May we all "dodge that trap", or at least have friends honest enough to point out when we fall into it.<BR/><BR/><BR/>RegReghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12753176107399356438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2281443754502891373.post-34957320139279926642009-03-04T22:31:00.000-05:002009-03-04T22:31:00.000-05:00Thanks, Reg! It's dicey to write about smart peopl...Thanks, Reg! It's dicey to write about smart people and (presumptuously?) include oneself among them. In fact, it's almost a guarantee for saying something boneheaded. I'm glad if you think I dodged that trap. This time, anyway. :-)Sungoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02153155221248240952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2281443754502891373.post-47758049653784027652009-03-04T17:54:00.000-05:002009-03-04T17:54:00.000-05:00Incisive and funny. Excellent. thank you.RegIncisive and funny. Excellent. thank you.<BR/><BR/><BR/>RegReghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12753176107399356438noreply@blogger.com